EPISODE 96: WENDY CARRILLO ON PUBLIC SERVICE AND INSPIRATION

 

This week on the show we have our very first Super Mamacita guest! Wendy Carrillo is not a mom, but she is an inspirational woman, sister, and daughter. She is a journalist, activist, and is now running for Congress in Los Angeles' district 34 in a special election that will happen on April 4th. 

We discuss her journey as an immigrant, and her trajectory in journalism. She also talks about her activism, including her time fighting for environmental and water rights and the important role women, and mothers play in these efforts. Plus, the powerful experience that led her to run for office in the same place where she grew up.

We also get back to Civics 101, and she tells us what does Congress does and why voting in local elections matters. 

She also gives us tips on how to raise children who love to read, and believe in themselves. 

Wendy's story teaches us that we can all be the change we want to see in the world and that our perspective as women, mothers and immigrants matters.

To learn more about Wendy Carrillo's campaign visit her site www.votewendycarrillo.com. Find her on Instagram @wendycarrillo or on Facebook @votewendycarrillo. You can also watch the video below to learn more about her campaign. 

Show Notes: 

CD 34 Special Election

Wendy Carrillo: Why I'm Running for Congress

About the Dakota Access Pipeline

What Does Congress Do? 

Tips: 

Wendy: Since she loses sunglasses often, rather than purchasing designer sunglasses, she purchases multiple inexpensive glasses at discounts stores.

Paulina: Teach your kids the value of the dollar by having them write down items and prices of items they want. Even kids as young as 5 like mine can start doing small chores, and "work" to earn money for items they want

Bricia: Even younger children can also do chores at home. Children as young as 2 can sort laundry, help set and clean up the table. The point is to have them perform task not only for themselves but for the entire family. Empowering kids through serving from an early age is a great way to raise good citizens!  

 

 

EPISODE 95: @WEAREMITU'S FOUNDER BEATRIZ ACEVEDO

 

We are kicking off Women’s History Month with a #momboss extraordinaire, Beatriz Acevedo founding partner and president of everyone’s favorite website, MiTú, the leading technology-driven media brand focused on creating fresh and innovative content for the mobile generation.

She is a digital pioneer, Latin media expert and network approved show-runner with more than 20 years of entertainment experience, having created, developed and produced hundreds of original, primetime television shows and award-winning digital series.

She is a wife, mother of 11-year old twins, and an avid cook.

This woman can really do it all! 

She takes us through her origins growing up on the U.S/Mexico border, how she kick-started her career in media at 8 years old! Won Emmy's in her early 20's and how a chance encounter with director Robert Rodriguez led her to Los Angeles and on a trajectory that eventually led her to create her own media company. 

She also gets candid about her own struggles adapting to motherhood and how she deals with #momguilt. She shares what gets her through those tough moments and how she finds balance while traveling and managing her career. She even talks to us about her multi-cultural family, and how it has influenced her cooking. 

We were so happy that she took time out of her busy schedule to talk to us about her amazing career trajectory.

Her story inspires us all to create the life we want!

Show Notes:

Mi Tu

Gina Rodriguez Interviews Barack Obama

Tips and Picks: 

Calm Kids is great for younger kids. Beatriz meditates with her son every night. 

Watch Babies on Netflix

Swanwick Sleep - Blue light blocking glasses

Leaders Eat Last

Thrive

 

EPISODE 94: POTTY TRAINING EXPERT JENNY PHELPS

 

This week we talked to Jenny Phelps of Oh Crap! Potty Training about all things potty training. Jenny has worked with hundreds of families to create potty training methods and practices that meet their unique needs. She gave us so many great tips and insights that have already helped us potty train our kids! 

She answered some of the most frequently asked questions about how to successfully potty train kids. Did you know there is an ideal age to start potty training? Between 24 and 30 months is the ideal time since children are not going through any other major milestones and so they can adapt to this change with ease. 

The best way to start is to do full immersion where your child is bottomless for 2-4 days and you have the time to focus exclusively on supporting your child and creating the right environment for potty training. She gave us great tips on how to get started! And how to know when to proceed from immersion to the next stages of potty training. 

Jenny also told us her favorite potty's and gear. Including what to do when you are in restaurants and how to navigate daycare and travel situations. 

We also learn how to deal with the setbacks and regressions that are a natural part of the process and how pull-ups could actually be counterproductive to the potty training process.  

Unconventional tips, like how a yellow SOLO cup can help you potty train. 

How to deal with a child that is resisting potty training.

The answer to the question all mom's of boys have, do they pee sitting or standing? 

We also talk about the most common mistake you need to avoid, and the 3 C's of potty training: consistency, calm and commitment. 

We also share about our own potty training methods and adventures. 

Thank You Jenny for coming on the show! Learn more about Jenny's personalized consulting and classes here. You can also find her on Facebook and on her site

Show Notes:  

Primo 4-In-1 Potty

Munchkin 3-In-1 Potty

Polette Training Potty 

Yellow Cup

How to Deal With Potty Training Resistance

Tips: 

Noisy automatic flushing in public restrooms can scare young children. To de-activate the sensor place a post-it in front of it before your child sits. 

Picks: 

Oh Crap! Potty Training Books  

Aqueduck Faucet Extender

Flairosol Stylist Reusable Spray Bottle

 

EPISODE 93: SEX THERAPIST SAMARA FABRICK

 

Samara Fabrick is a California-certified Licensed Clinical Social Worker and an experienced psychotherapist with over two decades of experience teaching couples how to have successful marriages. In this episode, she gives us tips and insights on how to stay in love and keep a strong connection with our partners when we have young children. 

She teaches us how to create a culture of appreciation and affection in our relationships that will lead to marital bliss.  Plus! How to insulate our relationships to withstand difficult times. 

Hear her tips on how to keep things steamy in the bedroom even after decades of marriage. These are guaranteed to increase the romance in your relationship! 

Paulina gets real about how Latino cultural attitudes impact our ability to talk about sex, impact our lives and shares tips on how to get more comfortable talking about the subject. 

Samara also shares with us a life-changing tip to improve intimacy with yourself and your partner that you don't want to miss!

Tips: 

 Express love and appreciation towards your spouse during good times, those expressions of love insulate your relationship during bad times. 

Create sacred space for your relationship for sensual activities like: reading poetry, foot massages, listening to music, take showers together. These activities promote intimacy even if they don't involve sex. 

Compliment your partner on a random day, it will serve as a quick confidence booster.

Get yourself in the mood: Take a shower, light some candles and set the mood for romance. If you build it, it will come.  

Picks: 

7 Principles for Making Marriage Work

The Power of When

Thank you so much to Samara Fabrick for sharing her professional and personal expertise with our listeners!  

Learn more about her and her practice on her site samarafabrick.com. 

 

EPISODE 92: VALENTINE' DAY SPECIAL-HOW WE MET OUR HUSBANDS

In this very special Valentine's Day episode, we share the stories behind how we met our husbands. 

The life-changing moment when Paulina first met her husband and the novela-like story that followed. Learn about the many up's and down's that have ensued in their long relationship and the many different ways that they have celebrated Valentine's Day. 

How a chance encounter led Bricia to find her true love and perfect match. Of course, Mezcal ,Bricia's special charm, and Chinese astrology were involved. Their spiritual and romantic road to happily ever after is quite cinematic. 

You don't want to miss all the emotional and juicy details! 

We also give advice on how to make sure you get what you want for Valentine's Day! 

Tips: 

Date your husband. Your husband comes first! 

Do random acts of kindness for your husband without expecting anything in return. 

Picks:

Liberator Hard Wedge Positioning Pillow

This week's episode was brought to you by I Love Mole! Check out the store for delicious and easy to prepare mole. 

EPISODE 91: MY MONEY, MY FUTURE

 

This week we spoke to Ramona Ortega from My Money, My Future a mission-driven financial tech company that combines tailored content and simple to use tools to help young consumers manage their money with confidence.

She talked to us about her mission to make sure people have the right information about money and break down the stigma about talking about money. In this episode, we discuss the basics of personal and family finances and issues like: credit, life insurance, wills, retirement plans and emergency savings. How to go from surviving to thriving!

Learn about financial triggers and the connection between money and emotion and why it leads to overspending.

We also dive into how to financially prepare for a new child, and how to talk to children about money and building wealth.

She breaks down the importance of credit, and why it speaks to you no matter where you go. Why not having credit is also a problem.

Why making money isn’t the same as having net-worth.

Bricia also gives us an update on her latest emergency preparedness buys and of. course our tips and picks of the weeks can be found below! 

There is so much knowledge in this episode.This episode is great for anyone that wants to go from surviving to thriving!

For more money advice visit her site Mi Dinero, Mi Futuro for more great tips and to access financial planning and budgeting tools. 

Show Notes: 

Mi Dinero, Mi Futuro

Dry Food for Emergency  

Portable Gas Stove and Butane

Fire Proof Safe

Tips and Picks: 

Digit Savings App

Robin Hood Investing App

Ally Online Banking

Things I Know for Sure

 

 

EPISODE 90: SURROGACY, BEING A MOM BOSS & WARRIOR OF LIFE @FRENCHCHEFWIFE

 

This week, we talk to #Momboss, and Warrior of Life, Krissy LeFevre who is Vice President of Ludo Management, Inc.  Krissy is the mother of a twin boy and girl that were delivered via surrogate.

In this powerful episode, she talked to us about her long seven-year journey to becoming a mother, after surviving cervical cancer, a hysterectomy, and a failed adoption.

She goes in depth into the process of retrieving her eggs, finding a surrogate and the surprising egg donor that made her dream of motherhood a reality.

She talked to us about her career trajectory from being an attorney, to being on The Apprentice, to building a worldwide food brand that includes multiple restaurants, and spearheading innovative food experiences across the country with her husband Chef Ludo.

Her experience on The Apprentice and how it prepared her to raise twins.

The reason why she posed for Playboy magazine and the role it played in her becoming a mother.

She also has a candid conversation with us about how to talk to kids about difficult subjects.

This is a perfect episode for anyone who has dealt with or is dealing with difficult circumstances, had difficulty conceiving or anyone who needs inspiration.  

You can follow Krissy and her family’s adventures by following them on Instagram: Krissy @frenchchefwife, her son Luca @lucaeats, and her husband, Chef Ludo @chefludo

Show Notes:

Ludo Bites America

All-Star Chef Classic

Trois Familia

Chef Ludo

Ludo Bird  

Petit Trois

Krissy’s Tips:

Krissy always speaks openly to her children. She has spoke candidly to them about how they were born. She believes in teaching moments, from encouraging her kids to help others, taking her daughter to the women’s march and to talking to them about immigration issues. Honesty is one of her most important parenting values.

Bricia Tips:

The New Yorker

Water Containers

 

EPISODE 89: HOW TO BEFRIEND YOUR TEENAGE SON

 

This week on the show we interviewed Rachel Matos Director of Social Media for We All Grow Latina Network and lifestyle blogger at The Art Muse. She talked to us about her life with her fiance and teenage son, and her experience with a divorce and moving across the country when her son was a child. 

Rachel shares tips on how to communicate with your teenage son, how to set boundaries, and how to foster a relationship as your son goes through various stages. 

She also talked to us about her background in art. Rachel honed her art skills at the School of Visual Arts and Columbia University and later worked in the museum field as a program curator and lecturer/educator for prestigious institutions like The Guggenheim and The Metropolitan Museum of Art.

We have a special guest during our introduction that you don't want to miss! 

This episode and our “It’s The Little Things,” segment is brought to you by Munchkin, developing innovative, modern and credible products for babies and children that make parents lives easier and more enjoyable by thinking of the little things.

Show Notes: 

Tony Robbins Business Mastery

Cristela Alonzo Netflix Special

The Art Muse

We All Grow Latina Network

Seven Things To Do With Your Teenage Son

Tips and Picks: 

Calm App for Meditation

How I Built This

Kubo and The Two Strings

 

EPISODE 88: EXPERT ADVICE ON POSTPARTUM DEPRESSION & ANXIETY

 

This week we tackle a very important subject: postpartum depression and anxiety. We talked to expert, Gabrielle Kaufman MA,LPCC, BC-DMT, NCC a clinical counselor with over 20 years of experience in the helping profession who currently serves as the Director of Training and Technical Assistance at Maternal Mental Health Now. An organization that works to ensure mothers are receiving proper diagnosis and mental health support during pregnancy, postpartum and beyond. 

We talked about how to identify the signs of postpartum depression and anxiety. Including how to distinguish between baby blues, and depression.

Why if something feels so different that you can’t function, then it’s time to ask someone about it: You can ask your family, your doctor, someone at your church.

Why we need to break through common misconceptions about postpartum depression that exist in Latino communities and in the media.

Learn what is the first step you should take if you suspect you are suffering from postpartum depression.

Why postpartum depression doesn’t just happen to women who gave birth recently.

Paulina also talks about her own experience dealing with postpartum depression and shares how we can be helpful to other women suffering from this.

They also share the one thing you should never tell a woman who just had a baby. How misconceptions about motherhood hurt women and their families.

We dive into the difference between postpartum depression, anxiety and postpartum psychosis.

Our expert also shares good news,  that the majority of women suffering from postpartum depression recover after treatment and support.

As a mother herself, she also gets real about the not so fun parts of motherhood.

We also talk about how all moms can feel better about themselves post-baby, including how to find time for yourself, and how to tune into your sensual and feminine side.

We also tell you about our adventures at Disneyland and give you an update on potty training our toddlers.

If you or someone you know suspects they are suffering from postpartum depression or need someone to talk to after delivering a baby please call 1.800.944.4773 or visit postpartum.net

For information about finding a mental health provider in Los Angeles County please visit MaternalMentalHealthNow.Org
 

Show Notes:

Picks of the Week:

Tips of the Week:

  • Channel feminine energy by moving and touching. Lighting candles and smelling good. Let yourself feel sensual.

  • Breastfeeding leads to vaginal dryness, use lubrication and drink plenty of water to stay hydrated.

  • Think of other ways to be sensual together that might not involve sex, like dancing or taking a bath together.

 

EPISODE 87: DEALING WITH DEPRESSION & STAYING FIT

 

Roxy Jimenez is the founder of Fit4Mom LA, she is back in the studio to share workout tips, nutrition, and health tips with us. She was a previous guest on the show, she talked to us about her experience dealing with a miscarriage.

Roxy is the mother of two children, including an 8 month old baby girl. Shortly after her daughter was born she was diagnosed with a heart condition and needed immediate surgery.

Roxy talked to us about the depression she suffered as her youngest went through heart surgery. In a very candid conversation, she talks about how this affected her relationship, and how she dealt with the fear her daughter’s illness brought into her life.

She describes the moment she had to admit to herself when she needed support and how exercise is playing a role in her journey.

We also provide you an update on potty training, and some great tips on how to cook for your child

This episode and our “It’s The Little Things,” segment is brought to you by Munchkin, developing innovative, modern and credible products for babies and children that make parents lives easier and more enjoyable by thinking of the little things.

Show Notes:

Training Underwear

Training Boxer Briefs

Munchkin Sturdy Potty Seat

Munchkin Potty

Stroller Stride

Tips and Picks of the Week: 

EMeals

Belgian Waffle Maker

Whole Grain Flap Jack and Waffle Mix

Pyrex Measuring Cups

Daves Killer Bread

Coconut Oil

Hot Lemon and Water

Lemon, Ginger, Wellness and Turmeric Shot

 

EPISODE 86: HOLIDAY TRAVEL STORIES, HIBERNATION AND THE NEW YEAR

 

In our first episode of the year, we share all about our 8 day trip to our Oaxaca, Mexico. We talk about our experience flying with children, and spending the holidays with our entire family which included unexpected illnesses, limpia, ojo and unorthodox cures.

We also share our potty training successes, and adventures.

We also admit how we feel after uninterrupted time with family and our kids.  

Why sometimes you need time to hibernate to rejuvenate and the benefits of taking time off with our families.

We tell you how we celebrated New Year's Eve! 

Listen to learn about how we are getting ourselves set up for success in 2017! This includes getting ourselves organized, and setting goals based on what we learned from Tony Robbins.

We also discuss wellness, our favorite vitamin supplements and how we are planning to stay healthy in the new year!  

Plus Bricia's son joins them in the studio and holds a special surprise! 

Show Notes:

Vitamin Supplements

Tips & Picks of the Week: Calendars and Planners

 

EPISODE 85: DATE WITH DESTINY RECAP

 

In our last episode of the year we share about our experience attending “Date with Destiny” a 6-day retreat in Boca Raton with Tony Robbins. The retreat included powerful meditations, examination of values, the self, and tools to transform your heart and mind.

WE share how the experience at this retreat has made it easier for us to navigate stressful situations. We walked in the rain, learned a lot about themselves, our weaknesses, our strengths and values. It also forced us to examine our areas of growth.

Paulina confronted her depressive tendencies, Bricia confronted her issues with energy.

We share loads of useful tips for happier, more fulfilled lives. Listen to hear about:

  • The daily practices we learned and how we have been implementing them in their lives.

  • The power of mindset when dealing with emotions related to stress, and exhaustion.

  • What is Peak State?

  • Why we should look at the positive things in situations rather than the negatives.

  • The power of meditating with intention

  • A quick exercise to get in touch with your heart and emotions, and show gratitude.

  • Tony’s approach to the differences between men and women. The polarities between the masculine and feminine and how they impact our relationships.

  • On the "It’s the Little Things Segment," we share the 4 words that make a huge difference. Paulina shares how she is creating daily practices with her daughters based on what she learned at the at Date with Destiny. 

Bricia also shares about a recent 5AM incident with her son that included a fun “poopy” surprise!  

We also talk about their excitement over being together as a family in Oaxaca in their parents new home.

We also share their gratitude and final thoughts for the year.

Happy Holidays to all of our listeners. Thank you for all of your love and support this year. 

We will resume episodes in 2017! 

Episode Sponsors: Gaffer and Child, a line of timeless personal care products made in small batches from organic, plant-based ingredients.

“It’s the Little Things” Segment sponsored by Munchkin

Show Notes:

Create a Blueprint of Yourself

Tony Robbins Meditation Music

Tony Robbins Priming Exercise

Tim Ferris Podcast Meditation with Tony Robbins

Super Mamas Facebook LIVE

Lolas Cocina

Tony Robbins: What Makes Relationships Work

Learn More About Tony Robbins:

I’m Not Your Guru

Unleash the Power Within

Tips and Picks of the Week:

Lysol Disinfectant Spray

Packing Tips: Ziploc Gallon Bags to save packing space and store outfits in labeled ziploc bags.

 

EPISODE 84:SUPER MAMAS HOLIDAY DISNEY SPECIAL

What best way to get into the Holiday Spirit than to spend a day experiencing the magic of Disney in  the "Festival of Holidays" at the Disneyland Resort?  On this episode we take you with us on some of our favorite moments from that day, from the lighting of "Small World", to meeting and interviewing some of the amazing people behind these festivities.  We talk to Head Pastry Chef Jorge Sotelo and to Norma Perez Juarez about their work with Disney and they share  some some insider tips to get the best out of your experience at the park.  

We had an amazing time feeling like kids again and we definitely got into the holiday spirits right away!

This episode is brought to you by Target.

SHOW NOTES:

Festival of Holidays at Disney 

Jorge Sotelo-Foodie Award Winner

Disneyland Parks

Target

EPISODE 83:RIE PRINCIPLES AND DICIPLINE W ERICA OROZCO

This week we have Erica Orozco from Home School Garden back with us.  This time we go deep into the RIE approach to discipline and she shares with us different strategies that could help us deal with issues we might have going on with our little ones or just start setting boundaries  since early on.  We also learn that a lot of the discipline has to do with us and the issues we as adults bring to the table.  There is a lot of helpful information in this podcast you do not want to miss!

This Episode and our "It's The Little Things" segment is brought to you by Munchkin, developing innovative, modern, and credible products for babies and children that make parents’ lives easier and more enjoyable by thinking of "the little things."

SHOW NOTES:

WHAT IS RIE?

Eddie the Eagle-The Movie

EPISODE 82: @THEPENNYCLOSET_ CLAUDIA FELIX GARAY

This week we have Claudia Felix Garay founder of www.ThePennyCloset.com, Claudia is a brand new mom of a baby boy and she shares with us her journey from her pregnancy, how she prepared for labor, to how she is living the first months of motherhood.

Claudia also shares the importance of her partnership with her husband Christian and how they have managed to work together to grow their relationship and their brand as well along the way.

This Episode and our "It's The Little Things" segment is brought to you by Munchkin, developing innovative, modern, and credible products for babies and children that make parents’ lives easier and more enjoyable by thinking of "the little things."

SHOW NOTES:

THE PENNY CLOSET

Fit bit 

Kor Nava Filter Bottle 

Canticos World

Super Mamas Holiday Gift Guide 

EPISODE 81: POLITICALLY AND SEXUALLY FREE

This week Paulina and Bricia sit down to talk about how they each experienced the outcome of the recent presidential elections and share their thoughts on the current shift the country is going through.  

Bricia also shares her experience at Summit at Sea and they go deeper into a particular session she attended on the importance of the Freedom of  Women's Sexuality, and what that means to us.  

This episode is brought to you by Munchkin.

 

SHOW NOTES: 

Summit at Sea 

Sr. Shefali Tsabari 

Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan 

Gaffer & Child 

Munchkin 

EPISODE 80: #TARGETTHURSDAY~ DISCIPLINE STRUGGLES AND OUR VISION BOARD PARTY

On this #TargetThursday episode the Super Mamas talk about the struggles Paulina is going through with Sabina and how she is having a very difficult time implementing discipline at home, while Bricia shares her anxieties on her upcoming trip.  Plus they talk about the realities of being a Super Mama.

They also share more on their upcoming "Vision Board Party"  this December 1st.  Tickets are now available on http://www.supermamaspodcast.com/events/

This episode is brought to you by Target!

SHOW NOTES:

TARGET 

EPISODE79: @LOLLALANDUSA FOUNDER, HANNA LIM

This week we have Hanna Lim, founder of LollaLand, the company behind the famous Lolla Cup.  Hanna shares with us the story of how she started her company with nothing but an desire to create a product that would  help kids like her daughter who had a hard time with the cups out in the market at the time.  With no previous experience in the field Hanna managed to find a way to not only create her product but get her product on the famous show "Shark Tank" where it was picked up and it is now one of the top baby brand products in the market. 

Hanna is a mother of 3 beautiful girls, and runs her family company alongside her husband.   She also shares with us a very interesting story of her experience in Korean "Wife School" and everything she learned there.  Hanna's story is  very inspiring story and proof that  following your heart and making thins happen is always possible. 

This episode is brought to you by Munchkin.

SHOW NOTES:

LollaLand USA

EPISODE 78: CANTICOS FOUNDERS & OUR HALLOWEEN RECAP

This week we have Nuria Santamaria Wolfe and Susie Jaramillo the co-founders of Encantos Media, the company behind the "Canticos" Children's book series and the Canticos Apps.  They share with us the backstory behind their joint adventure and how the company came to be.  Nuria and Susy  also share with us a little bit about their busy life as mothers, business women, and how they balance and manage a business together when they live across the country from each other.  

We also share with you our Halloween adventures at home and how we did not measured up to the social media pressure on the kid's costumes.  

This episode is brought to you by Munchkin

SHOW NOTES:

CANTICOS WORLD 

LOS POLLITOS APP

LOS POLLITOS BY CANTICOS

ELEFANTITOS BY CANTICOS

TWITTER- NURIA SANTAMARIA

PIANO MAESTRO APP

POSTMATES APP 

MUNCHKIN

EPISODE 77: PARENTS LATINA EDITOR & CHIEF GRACE BASTIDAS

This week we sit down with Grace Bastidas Founding Editor-in-Chief of Parents Latina, a magazine launched in 2015 that serves up culturally-relevant content for today’s modern Latina mom and Editor of Ser Padres, a magazine for spanish speaking parents in the USA.

Grace lives in Brooklyn NY and is a mother of 2 girls. She tells us all about her tri-cultural family and what she does to try to maintain her girls immersed in her latina culture, her husband's european culture and their american culture. We also talk about her professional journey and all that she accomplished while transitioning from one children to two and Grace's latest project #Love_Libros, an initiative that hopes to promote literacy as well as to inspire and empowers parents to foster the love for books in their kids.

This episode is brought to you by Munchkin

SHOW NOTES;

Parents Latina Magazine 

Ser Padres Magazine 

Little Passports 

Narcos on Netflix

Etsy Party Invitation Templates

Langham Hotel Pasadena 

What are your plans for the weekend ?Come join us this Saturday! we’re cooking up something STRANGE with @chefashleyshep and @iampaulinalopez! Check out the link in our bio to be a part of a very special STRANGE WORLD Mommy and Me cooking class
I feel like I’ve gotten to know so much more of myself in the past couple of weeks, from my trip to Oaxaca reconnecting to my inner child and the traditions that fill me up so much to meeting with @victor.zenstoic today. I feel so grateful and