Episode 321: Not an Angry Mom, I’m a Raging Mom: Owning Mom Rage with Annia Palacios

“Motherhood is hard, but it doesn’t have to be this hard.” - Annia

Have you ever felt so anxious, overwhelmed, tired, or a million other emotions, but what comes out is… anger? This is called rage, in particular mom rage, and our guest this week is explaining these feelings and how we can handle them. Annia Palacios is a therapist who has dedicated her career to working with moms after her own struggle with postpartum depression. During our conversation, we discuss the symptoms of mom rage, the challenges of motherhood that ignite these emotions, and our overall maternal mental health. We also touch on post traumatic stress that parents specifically have felt over the last few years, and how to cope. 

Before the show…

Bricia is alone this week (Paulina is in Oaxaca), but we do have a major announcement this week. Our michelada mix company, I Love Micheladas, is now being carried in select Costco locations in California! We want to shout out our tiny but mighty ILM team who worked so hard to make this all possible, and to our new Costco family for all the love, patience and support. Full list of locations is below. And for our listeners not local to Los Angeles or California, you can also shop our mix at Vallarta, Northgate Markets and 24/7 on ILoveMicheladas.com.

Costco Locations Carrying I Love Micheladas Mix

Azusa

Eastvale

Fontana

Fullerton

Inglewood

La Habra

La Quinta

Monterey Park

Norwalk

Oxnard 

Van Nuys

More about Annia: Annia Palacios is a therapist, coach, mom and stepmom who has dedicated her career to working with moms. She transformed her therapy practice into primarily working with mothers after her own struggles with postpartum depression following the birth of her first child. Through that journey, Annia realized that moms deserved better and shouldn't have to suffer in silence.

Today, Annia's therapy practice is dedicated to helping moms and mom-to-be navigate postpartum depression and anxiety, grief, infertility, and birth trauma. Her coaching work supports mom in managing mom rage and the mental load of motherhood so they can redefine themselves and find balance in life and motherhood.

Annia offers therapy services to clients living in Texas and Florida through Tightrope Therapy and provides coaching services nationwide and internationally via Moms Playbook Coaching.

Our Conversation with Annia

How long does maternal mental health last?

Post Traumatic Stress after Uvalde and other tragic events

Preparing for Safety with our Children

Symptoms of postpartum depression and anxiety

Mom rage - what does it feel like and look like?

How to cope with rage

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Links

Follow Annia on Instagram - @the.therapy.mom and TikTok @tightropetherapy

You can also learn more about Annia’s practice at TightRopeTherapy.com and her online coaching for moms at MomsPlaybookCoaching.com.

Episode 315: Unapologetically Marcela: A Conversation with chef, author & super mama, Marcela Valladolid

To say we fan-girled over this week’s guest is an understatement! We interview Marcela Valladolid - chef, television personality, designer, author, businesswoman and ultimate super mama - and she took us to church. She talks about growing up in Tijuana, MX, her book writing process, personal growth, health, and her beautiful family. If you follow Marcela on Instagram, you know she is always unapologetically herself. Her real authentic personality transcends through the microphone throughout this episode and you’ll want to take notes, because her words will encourage you to be unapologetically you, too.

More about Marcela: Marcela Valladolid is an Emmy nominated celebrity chef, television personality, designer, author, mother and businesswoman.

Growing up around expert and traditional cooks in Tijuana, Mexico, Marcela was raised to be passionate about food. She enrolled full time in the Los Angeles Culinary Institute and trained in Paris where she graduated as a classically trained pastry chef at the Ritz-Escoffier Cooking School.

Marcela began her professional career as a Food Editor for Bon Appetite Magazine. Her first television show was "Relatos Con Sabor" for Discovery en Español and she published her first book, "Fresh Mexico", in 2009.

She hosted her second show, "Mexican Made Easy", for the Food Network in 2010 and released a companion book, "Mexican Made Easy", in 2011.

Marcela was a co-host on the three-time Emmy Nominated Food Network hit show "The Kitchen." She has also appeared as a Celebrity judge for 3 seasons on the Food Network show "Best Baker in America" and was the Host of the Food Network's "Holiday Gingerbread Showdown" which aired December 2018.

She is currently co-hosting the "Marcela & Carina Show" a virtual live cooking class & entertainment show with her sister and motivational speaker Carina Valladolid, which was recently mentioned in the NY Times.

She has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, NY Times, People Magazine, Food & Wine Magazine, Los Angeles Magazine, NY Daily News, Better Homes & Garden, and has appeared on national TV shows such as Today Show, The Talk, The Chew, The View, Access Hollywood Live, The Rachael Ray Show, Live! with Kelly and Michael, AOL Build, Yahoo News and more.

Marcela has done partnerships and promotional events with companies such as Capital One, Google, Herdez, Northgate, Target, Bank of America and Estee Lauder to name a few. Marcela also had a branded line of food products in partnership with Safeway. She was the only celebrity to have had her own branded food line sold exclusively nationwide at Safeway/Vons/Pavilion's.

Marcela started a partnership with This Is Latin America in January 2021 that includes a line of curated products by Casa Marcela.

She released her 3rd book, CASA MARCELA, in April 2017 and her 4th book, "Fiestas; Tidbits, Margaritas & More," in April 2019, both listed as national best sellers. She just released her 5th book , “Cocinando on Cook Street”, a children's book in partnership with Latina-led publishing house, Lil Libros.

Marcela resides in Chula Vista, CA with her partner Philip Button and their three children (Fausto, David and Anna Carina) and their dog, Kongo.

Our conversation with Marcela

Who is Marcela?

The book writing process

Whats App - the Mexican Way

“Her dad is the OG instagram feed” - Paulina about Patty’s father

Growing up in Tijuana

Marcela’s mom

“My mom taught us the only way to find your happiness is to be authentic to yourselves.” - Marcela

“‘Que van a decir la gente?’ You hear it your whole life.” - Marcela, on the biggest lesson she learned from her mother

La generación de cristal

“I carry a lot of guilt because I’m a working mom.” - Marcela

The parental balance in the household

Marcela’s personal growth

Yoga & being sober

“Your energy is just so ever flowing.” - Bricia to Marcela about her personal growth

Seeking therapy

Maintaining emotional health

“I can be going through a really rough moment and that it’s going to pass and I’m going to coexist in this moment and go on with other things in my life.” - Marcela

Pick or Tip of the Week

Bricia’s pick is Sneakerella on Disney+. It’s basically Cinderella but a dude with sneakers, and Eddie loves it. The music, singing and dancing is great! It’s a great pick for kids since they’re going to be spending more time at home now that it’s summer vacation.

Paulina’s tip is actually a tip from Patty Rodriguez that they picked up during their short trip to Texas.  When it’s really hot out and you’re wearing a hat, grab a few small ice cubes and stick them in the seam of your hat. It’s great for sport days, summer camp, traveling - whenever you’ll be outside and need to cool off.

Links

Follow Marcela on Instagram - @chefmarcela

You can get her new book, Cocinando on Cook Street: A collection of mi familia’s recipes on Amazon

Episode 286: Putting in Work & Learning to Stand After Life Has Knocked You Down with Rosie Rivera

Another super mama alumnus is back on the show this week - Rosie Rivera! This mama is an entrepreneur, podcast host and recently released another book, “God Is Your Defender” that we’re adding to our collection ASAP. We talk to Rosie about learning to let go of feelings of resentment & revenge for our own internal healing and putting all our faith & trust in God. She also tells us about recognizing when it’s time work on ourselves on our own, when to work with someone you trust or even reach out to a professional. Rosie’s strength and light really radiates when she speaks, and we hope you can feel it transcend through your speakers! 

More about Rosie: A businesswoman, television personality, and social media influencer, Rosie Rivera is one of the most influential and inspirational Latinas in the world. She co-hosts The Power of Us, a marriage podcast, with her husband, Abel Flores; is the mother of three children; has authored five books; has appeared on reality shows such as I Love Jenni, The Riveras, Mira Quien Baila, and Rica, Famosa, Latina; is involved in her family’s Christian outreach ministry; and carries out her sister’s mission of helping single mothers find affordable housing, shelter and treatment for abuse through the Jenni Rivera Love Foundation. Rosie has also worked closely with Telemundo to develop a series based on her sister’s life story, Jenni Rivera: Mariposa de Barrio (a chart-topper on Netflix) and is the founder of Sister Samalia, an organization that helps to restore and uplift women who have been victims of sexual abuse, human trafficking, drugs and domestic violence in Latin America so that they can experience God’s healing, as she has.

About the book: Businesswoman, television personality, and survivor Rosie Rivera shares how to lean on God as defender in the midst of life’s hurts and wounds while also grappling with the strong desire for justice and retaliation.

Revenge is one of our deepest instincts. When we have been hurt or when something has been stolen from us, whether that be our innocence or our good name or a loved one, the desire to retaliate is irresistible. But is it the right response of a follower of Jesus?

As a survivor herself, Rosie Rivera has walked in this tension, a sojourner in the search for healing and wholeness in the light of horrific wrongs. She has wrestled the desire to defend herself, her reputation, and her family while also wanting to let God be her Defender.

God Is Your Defender is about understanding the motives behind your thoughts and behaviors toward those who have wronged you. It is about the conditions you might have put on forgiveness. It is about fighting the urge to take over instead of trusting God. It is about learning how to truly rest in the Lord as the One who defends you and actively abiding in his peace.

Backed by biblical examples and personal stories, Rosie guides you to a place of healing as you:

• Learn the difference between a vengeful spirit and a heart of advocacy

• Stop the self-destructive cycle of the desire for revenge

• Discern effectively when to take a righteous stand and when to stand back and let God defend you

• Experience how to move from an “eye for an eye” mentality to an “I for an I” by exchanging “I am hurt” for “I am healing”

• Let go of the pain of the past without ignoring what happened

God Is Your Defender equips you to respond to hurtful situations, from the most minor to some of the most difficult, from a place of empowerment and peace.

Gems from this week’s episode

“God will speak to you and be like, ‘CHILL.’” - Rosie

“Whenever we get hurt, it’s really hard to let go.” - Paulina

“It’s hard to let God be our defender because we want it our way.” - Rosie

“I love when God speaks to me through my kids.” - Rosie

“I went from victim to victorious.” - Rosie 

Rosie’s Tips for Putting in the Work

• Go to a professional. Rosie goes to counseling at least once a year. Know in your process of the work when is the moment to do it by yourself, when to do it with someone else, when to do it with a professional.

• Be vulnerable. You’re going to be embarrassed but the love, caring and patience your trusted loved one will give you is a tremendous tool in healing.

• Know where you are. Is it time to talk to a professional, your husband, your mom? You have to know where you are in the process and know when the time is right.

REMEMBER : Work can look different and it will change. Different mechanisms can work at different times.

Links

Rosie’s new book is out now on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, available at Christian book stores and even by audiobook in Spanish and English! 

Join millions of others following her journey on social media: Facebook @RosieRiveraOfficial, Instagram @RosieRivera, Twitter @SoyRosieRivera and YouTube. Also follow her on Tiktok @SoyRosieRivera.

Listen to Rosie & Abel’s podcast - The Power of Us, a marriage podcast

Episode 268: Relationships in the Pandemic - A Valentine’s Day Special with Samara Fabrick

“Part of what keeps eroticism alive in marriage is separateness. You need to be your own person and your partner needs to be their own person, and when you come together as the Venn diagram, that's where the sexy, spicy comes.”

- Samara Fabrick

Are you feeling the love this week? 🥰 Ahead of Valentines Day, we brought back previous guest, Samara Fabrick, a couples therapist who talks to us about relationships during the pandemic. So many of us are facing issues with our partners like never before and Samara is breaking down the pros & cons to our newly realized problems. She is sharing ways that we can get our sexy back with our partners during quarantine and when we need it in the future! 

Listen to our previous episodes with Samara that will help set the mood for Valentine’s Day:

• Episode 93: How to Date Your Partner with Sex Therapist Samara Fabrick

• Episode 118: Sex while Pregnant, Sex Toys, Sex Shops and the Road to Sexual Freedom with Samara Fabrick

More about Samara Fabrick: Samara Fabrick is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who has been in private practice as a psychotherapist in Beverly Hills for the past 20 years. Samara specializes in working with clients suffering from anxiety as well as a specialization in relationship and couples therapy. She taught the premarital course, Making Marriage Work, at the American Jewish University for 15 years.  As part of her extensive work with couples, Samara works with a variety of sexual issues including those related to dating and sexuality in the course of long-term relationships. Samara has been married to her husband for 26 years and has two grown children.

How to Get Your Groove Back 😉

1. Make sure you are taking care of yourself and practicing self care. You need to feel good about yourself first before you focus on anyone else.

2. Find something that feels novel, or new. Samara suggests a few dates ideas below.

Valentine’s Day Date Ideas

• Get someone to watch the kids and take a night drive with your partner. Park somewhere and fool around a bit.

• If you live close to to the beach, take a drive up the coast. Super relaxing.

• Have a picnic in your backyard or the local park. Do the things that we used to do at the beginning of the pandemic that have become complacent.

• Do what feels sexy and special - take a bath or hot shower together, read a book.

• Make a date to have sex! It might not feel sexy to schedule it on the calendar, but it obviously matters enough. You NEED to make time for your partner! Lock the door and tell your kids it’s mommy & daddy time. Your kids will survive. 🤣

• Paulina’s suggestion - Prior to covid, she and her husband used to visit sex shops together. Now her husband will buy her something sexy online and have it delivered. It’s a fun surprise for both of them.

LINKS

For more information on Samara and to book a session, visit her website at SamaraFabrick.com

Divorce Rates Spike in China due to Coronavirus Lockdown

Paulina mentions how not sexy these sock gloves are (her pick from last week’s episode) but they are SO nice for your feet!

Samara’s favorite books right now - Girl, Woman, Other: A Novel by Bernadine Evaristo and The Vanishing Half: A Novel by Brit Bennett

We’re all also loving with making cocktails at home, especially with Fortaleza tequila! Not sponsored.

Samara’s guilty pleasure is Below Deck on Bravo.

And yes, we’re still obsessed with Bridgerton. Can you blame us?! We’re getting in the Valentine’s Day mood.

Episode 241: Mothering & Healing Your Soul and Your Inner Diosa with spiritual therapist @CosmicChristine, Christine Gutiérrez

It’s time to do work! Spiritual work, that is. You’ve heard us talk about our own spirituality on this show, so this week’s interview is with Christine Gutierrez, licensed psychotherapist, life coach, and so much more. We talk how she connects the study of the soul to the study of the mind as a spiritual therapy and the journey she took to realize that this is what she was meant to do in life. We’re also talking about her new book, I Am Diosa: A Journey to Healing Deep, Loving Yourself, and Coming Back Home to Soul , plus she mentions the tools we need to tap into our spiritual presence and reminds us that we are all divine. Light a candle, turn up the volume and let Cosmic Christine’s energy bring you to a higher place! Remember, anyone can activate their inner Diosa!

More about Cosmic Christine: Christine Gutierrez, MA, LMHC, is a Latina licensed psychotherapist, life coach, and expert in love addiction, trauma, abuse, and self-esteem. She has a bachelor's degree from Fordham University in human behavior and development, and a master's degree from City College of New York in mental health counseling with a focus on community and prevention. Through her work, Christine offers private coaching, group coaching, and transformational retreats such as her annual Diosa Retreat in Puerto Rico, as well as the iosa Tribe, a global community where like-hearted women come to heal, rise, and lead. She has been featured in Time Out NY, Latina Magazine, Yahoo Health, Ebony, Cosmo for Latinas, Huffington Post and others. Christine currently resides in Puerto Rico with her husband, Fernando Samalot and their pup, Bodhi. For more on her work, visit Christine.tv and follow her on Instagram @CosmicChristine.

Our Conversation with Christine

What does it mean to connect with your spirituality?

What is spirituality to you?

What inspired you to become a spiritual therpist?

How did you find your spiritual path?

What are some tools we can utilize to do own spiritual work?

Can you talk about the work you do with those who are suffering from abuse and/or addiction?

Tell us about your book. What is it about?

What does a workshop and a retreat with you look like?

What can we do for our kids to help them on their spiritual journey right now?

LINKS

Follow @CosmicChristine and learn more about her service, retreats, and more at ChristineG.tv.

Pre-order her new book, I Am Diosa, now! Click here!