“Part of what keeps eroticism alive in marriage is separateness. You need to be your own person and your partner needs to be their own person, and when you come together as the Venn diagram, that's where the sexy, spicy comes.”
- Samara Fabrick
Are you feeling the love this week? 🥰 Ahead of Valentines Day, we brought back previous guest, Samara Fabrick, a couples therapist who talks to us about relationships during the pandemic. So many of us are facing issues with our partners like never before and Samara is breaking down the pros & cons to our newly realized problems. She is sharing ways that we can get our sexy back with our partners during quarantine and when we need it in the future!
Listen to our previous episodes with Samara that will help set the mood for Valentine’s Day:
Episode 93: How to Date Your Partner with Sex Therapist Samara Fabrick
Episode 118: Sex while Pregnant, Sex Toys, Sex Shops and the Road to Sexual Freedom with Samara Fabrick
More about Samara Fabrick: Samara Fabrick is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who has been in private practice as a psychotherapist in Beverly Hills for the past 20 years. Samara specializes in working with clients suffering from anxiety as well as a specialization in relationship and couples therapy. She taught the premarital course, Making Marriage Work, at the American Jewish University for 15 years. As part of her extensive work with couples, Samara works with a variety of sexual issues including those related to dating and sexuality in the course of long-term relationships. Samara has been married to her husband for 26 years and has two grown children.
How to Get Your Groove Back 😉
Make sure you are taking care of yourself and practicing self care. You need to feel good about yourself first before you focus on anyone else.
Find something that feels novel, or new. Samara suggests a few dates ideas below.
Valentine’s Day Date Ideas
Get someone to watch the kids and take a night drive with your partner. Park somewhere and fool around a bit.
If you live close to to the beach, take a drive up the coast. Super relaxing.
Have a picnic in your backyard or the local park. Do the things that we used to do at the beginning of the pandemic that have become complacent.
Do what feels sexy and special - take a bath or hot shower together, read a book.
Make a date to have sex! It might not feel sexy to schedule it on the calendar, but it obviously matters enough. You NEED to make time for your partner! Lock the door and tell your kids it’s mommy & daddy time. Your kids will survive. 🤣
Paulina’s suggestion - Prior to covid, she and her husband used to visit sex shops together. Now her husband will buy her something sexy online and have it delivered. It’s a fun surprise for both of them.
LINKS
For more information on Samara and to book a session, visit her website at SamaraFabrick.com
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Paulina mentions how not sexy these sock gloves are (her pick from last week’s episode) but they are SO nice for your feet!
Samara’s favorite books right now - Girl, Woman, Other: A Novel by Bernadine Evaristo and The Vanishing Half: A Novel by Brit Bennett
We’re all also loving with making cocktails at home, especially with Fortaleza tequila! Not sponsored.
Samara’s guilty pleasure is Below Deck on Bravo.
And yes, we’re still obsessed with Bridgerton. Can you blame us?! We’re getting in the Valentine’s Day mood.
