conscious parenting

Episode 318: Parenting from Abundance with Lilliana Vazquez

Our guest this week, Lilliana Vazquez, has held many titles - style expert, former television host on E!, and most recently, mama to her almost one year old son, Santiago. Like most episodes, our conversation is all about parenting but this one is a little different. We’re not only talking about Lilliana’s road to becoming a parent, including IVF treatment and her birth story, but also what is means to parent in abundance. She believes that making sure her own cup is full before anything else helps her be the best parent she can be. We also talk about the difficult feelings surrounding motherhood, advocating for your health (always!) and how good it feels to finally be heard. 

More about Lilliana: Lilliana is known as one of the fashion blogging OGs, and has carried many titles - from blogger to style expert, TV commentator to television host on E!. The enterprising star has curated a career that began from her small blog (CheapChicas.com), which she launched in 2008, to being seen by millions daily on numerous platforms including NBC TODAY, "Extra" to "The Talk," "Rachael Ray," "The Wendy Williams Show" and "Steve Harvey."  Today, she’s at PEOPLE (The TV Show) as a Special Contributor covering all things entertainment, red carpets, runways, and celebrity pop culture news.

Born and raised in Fort Worth, Texas, to a Puerto Rican father and Mexican mother, Lilliana is a first-generation Latinx who radiates gratitude for the dedication and sacrifices that her family made for her. Among the first in her family to attend college, she graduated from George Washington University, where she earned a double-major in international business and entrepreneurship. Lilliana has always used her platform to advocate for her community, and fight for Latinx representation in media and entertainment, as well as raise awareness on social issues.

In April of 2021, Lilliana announced she was pregnant with her first child, after battling with six years of infertility and IVF. After living this experience, Lilliana wishes to use her voice and platform to break the taboo around infertility and how it affects the Latinx community. In July 2021, Lilliana announced the birth of her healthy baby boy, Santiago “Santi” Merrick McGrath. Lilliana hopes to continue sharing about her journey to motherhood, the lessons, the challenges and hope with other mothers and those who hope to experience motherhood one day.

Vocabulary from this week’s episode

IVF: In vitro fertilization (IVF) helps with fertilization, embryo development, and implantation, so you can get pregnant.

IUI treatment: Intrauterine insemination (IUI) is a simple procedure that puts sperm directly inside your uterus, which helps healthy sperm get closer to your egg.

AMH test: AMH, or anti-mullerian hormone is a substance produced by granulosa cells in ovarian follicles. Research shows that the size of the pool of growing follicles is heavily influenced by the size of the pool of remaining primordial follicles (microscopic follicles in “deep sleep”). Therefore, AMH blood levels are thought to reflect the size of the remaining egg supply – or “ovarian reserve”.

Gentle cesarean: A gentle C-section is a cesarean section which is elective and can occur under controlled situations.

Lilliana’s experience: “You can apply the same principles as a natural birth - skin to skin, cord clamping, vernix, and weight & height measurement can be delayed as long as the baby is okay. You can ask for a clear curtain instead of blue so you can watch the birth. You can also ask the doctor to take their time and be gentle; these are all things to discuss with your doctor if you are planning a gentle cesarean.”

Pick or Tip of the Week

Bricia’s pick this week is food! She has everything you can think of in her pantry - oils, salsas, etc. - she just wants to try one of everything. She recently tried David Chang’s products like the chili crunch, but her pick is the noodles. These are restaurant quality noodles come in clutch when you don’t have anything to eat.

Sun protection is Paulina’s tip this week. Coola Organic Radical Recovery After Sun Lotion has really helped her daughter’s recover from summer camp since they’re spending all day in the sun. They lather up before bed and it helps them so much in the morning.

Links

Follow Lilliana on Instagram @lillianavazquez

Episode 293: Venting with the Super Mamas- My kid got into a fight at school, Am I a bad mom?

This week we have a venting Session with the Super Mamás, Paulina got a phone call from school saying one of her daughters got into a fight at school and immediately the Mom Guilt kicked in, Is it my fault? Am I doing something wrong? Am I a bad mom? When our kids do something considered bad, we immediately start blaming ourselves as parents, but is it really our fault? How can we divide our time and attention to all of our kids needs when haven multiple kids, and trying to balance work and life at the same time? Is there really a right answer to this? What do you think?

Episode 185: Re-Parenting Ourselves & Unpacking Intergenerational Trauma with Latinx Parenting

 
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This week on the show we have the co-founders of Latinx Parenting, Leslie Priscilla Arreola-Hillenbrand and Lizeth Toscano. Rooted in social justice, this bilingual organization curates parenting workshops for intergenerational families to practice nonviolence towards themselves, self reflection & connection and overall community wellness for every generation. We unpack the common traumas in our community, how it affects our parenting and explain terms like “Marianismo” and "Familismo” and more.

Before the interview, Bricia gives us an inside on her wild mom’s night out and the perfect unknown park in LA- don’t worry, we’ll share. Click here. Also, Paulina explains why she and her girls LOVED Captain Marvel.

Our conversation with Latinx Parenting

How Latinx Parenting began

The importance of our community understanding brain development and trauma

The most common traumas Latinx parents are struggling with

How our traumas are manifesting in our parenting

Tips of creating boundaries with our parents/in-laws

The importance of being culturally relevant to both intergenerational immigrant and U.S. born Latinx families

You can get in contact with both Lizbeth & Leslie visit their website, www.latinxparenting.org or follow them on Instagram as, @LatinxParenting. You can also follow Lizeth on IG as @LizToscano & Leslie as @comadre.wellness.

For more information on their events, check them out here.

Pick or Tip of the Week

Lizeth’s book recommendations:

The Whole Child
Unconditional Parenting

Lizeth also recommends getting yourself some peppermint and breathe doTerra essential oils from @AceiteMama to fight off any colds! Also, Elderberry has been working wonders for her.

Leslie’s book recommendations:

Parenting From the Inside Out

Parenting with Pride- Latino Style

Raising Nuestros Ninos

Becoming

The Deepest Well

To add to Lizeth’s flu-fighting remedies, Bricia has concocted a special tea- Respiratory Blend from Wild Terra, chopped up ginger, 2 drops of doTerra lemon essential oil & crushed up zinc pill. She has been packing this lukewarm and sending Eddie off to school with it.

 

Episode 161: Conscious Parenting with Somos Padres, Yesenia Mendoza-Menchaca

 

This week on the podcast we have our friend and co-host of the Somos Padres Podcast, Yesenia Mendoza-Menchaca. We discuss Yesenia's 6-episode Summer Series podcast project in which she deconstructs the meaning of parenting. We ask her questions such as: what is your definition of discipline? How do we set limits on our child in a healthy way? Is parenting a selfish act? We also do a dive deep into quotes from the ultimate conscious parenting expert, Dr. Shefali Tsabary.

But first, Bricia is away in Oaxaca so Paulina and Elizabeth sit down and chat about their long Labor Day weekend. 

You can stream Somos Padres on iTunes and find them at somos-padres.com and on Instagram as @somos.padres. Follow Yesenia on Instagram as @Iam.Yesenia

Our conversation with Yesenia Mendoza-Menchaca

(12:50): How did you come up with the summer series idea?

(13:50): Episode 21: Summer Series (Ep.1): Deconstructing Parenting

(15:00): Episode 22: Summer Series (Ep.2) Discipline

(17:30): Episode 23: Summer Series (Ep.3): Conditional vs Unconditional love

(24:50):  Episode 24: Summer Series (Ep.4): Inequality [in our homes]

(28:28): Episode 25: Summer Series (Ep.5): Is Parenting a Selfish Act?

VIDEO: Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversations - Dr. Shefali Tsabary: Conscious Parenting Can Change the World

(35:30): Deconstructing- “we not only want them to represent ourselves but the better part of ourselves that we haven’t even become yet”

(38:40): Deconstructing- “Raising our children without a hierarchical view - what kind of children are you going to have if you’re not in charge?”

(40:38): what is true self-care?

(45:00): Deconstructing- "Parents would rather believe that they have a bad child then accept that it’s an inner problem for themselves. the unacceptance of our child’s essence, every manifestation of that is where we have to grow. We are scared to drop our ego’s”

Pick or Tip of the Week

Yesenia suggests that we take a parenting class that speaks to us specifically, start looking with ECHO. Also, curious about her reading list? Click here and add the The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer to it. 

Paulina is all about the Oprah podcast. Listen to her interview with Dani Shapiro: What Do You Believe?

Bricia's ultimate spiritual read is The Seat of the Soul by Gary Zukav. Tip: Listen to it via audible because it can get DEEP.