Episode 165: Zixta is ONE, reflecting back on my first year as a mother of three


This week on the show, Paulina sits down with Bricia to talk about her first year as a mother of three. Time flew by and baby Zixta has already turned one! We talk birthday party planning, how this celebration is Paulina’s way to celebrate herself more than the baby, the ups and downs of the past year and how after all this time she is finally getting the hang of life with her three girls. We also discuss the different ways she has mothered all three kids and what has made her life easier now that she has he hands full.

In conversation with Bricia and Paulina

(6:00): Zixta’s first birthday party & Paulina’s party planning process

(8:35): Party planning ideas with @HarlowPlanning

(10:30): What is soft play?

(13:37): Remembering childhood birthdays (and lack thereof lol)

(15:50): Third-time mom update with Paulina

(17:50): How taking a trip changed Paulina’s mindset and marriage

(19:40): How having 3 girls have become the norm and how much her girls have helped her this year

(24:01): How is mothering Zixta different then the other two?

(29:40): When you look at their personalities, is it different personalities come with different ways you speak to them? Or do they bring out different sides of you? How is that towards three different children?

(33:08): Do you still read up on milestones compared to the other babies?

(34:50): Party planning 2.0 with Target Spritz and outfit shopping with Cat & Jack

Pick or Tip of the Week

(38:18): Aside from Target Spritz, Paulina wants YOU to have fun planning any birthday because at the end of the day, it’s all about what you want. Also, tip 2.0- don’t forget to spend time with your hubby/significant other.

(41:15): Bricia’s tip isn’t directly tied to birthday parties BUT it’s helpful for storing things for birthday parties LOL. She encourages EVERYONE to get Damp Rid Moisture Absorb to take care of excess moisture and prevent the smell of must in your closets, pantry, etc.

(47:40): Questions Game (copy and paste into your notes!)
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling ... “

26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... “

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.